Make the Time
Tic, tic, tic.
The clock is always running, time is always moving, and people are always in motion. Every soul, at every moment, is in some state of motion. Even when we are resting, napping, or sleeping there are components in our bodies that are continually functioning.
Have you ever encountered someone who made a comment along the lines of “I’ll sleep when I’m dead”? I have, I use to work with an individual who made this comment at least once a week. What a truly awful way to think about life! Should you want to live in the moment? Should you want to hold on to each moment with friends and family? Should you cherish each sunrise? Should you savor each bite of food? I would say yes to each of these questions and the million others that are out there. We should not be living life with a negative outlook. Just as we should not be living life constantly thinking about the eventual end. The reality is that we all have a finite amount of time here and we do not know how much time we have. So why not make the most of every single available moment?
My life, thus far, has been a lot of joy, sorrow, anger, and a large range of other emotions. However, what I have learned in my short time on this planet is that each moment is vital to who we are and who we will become. Each moment of pain, each moment of anger, each moment of joy has taught me something and allowed me to understand that everything I do has an impact on someone else, even if it is only a small impact. A perfect example of this is if I were to drop a piece of paper when I’m getting out of my car. I could just simply take the moment to pause, pick it up, and then throw it away or I could simply leave it as paper since it will naturally decay as it gets wet. The problem with just leaving the paper is that it could take time before it decays and in that time it could fly onto someone’s windshield when they are driving or it could just simply decay. I will never know what will happen and that is why I know I need to be aware of how my actions and words could impact others. We never know how one small act can impact another person, another creature, or the planet.
This lesson was never more clear to me than the day when I learned my youngest sister was very sick and that she had Leukemia, that I truly realized how finite our lives are and that every moment can have lifelong impacts. Each moment will either have a positive or negative impact on the rest of our lives. You may think that is a little broad, but really think about your day. Did you make your bed this morning? If you did, then it probably gave you a sense of pride that you accomplished something, even if it is the only thing you accomplish all day. If you didn't, then you may be thinking about what you didn't do through the day or you may even feel a sense of stress when you come home.
When I learned that my sister, my baby sister, who had just started kindergarten (yes we have a large age gap, 17 years!) had leukemia I felt like such a failure to her in that moment. I realized that I had not been as present as I should have been in her few short years. I realized that there were moments where I could have been present in her life to take her to the park or just play dress-up, but instead I made another choice to hang out with friends or to stay at school just to get some along time. Now, don't get me wrong alone time is a thing we all need a little more of in life to allow us to re-center and be better versions of yourself. Just in that moment, that was what I regretted the most. My thinking was flawed though because I failed to see myself through her eyes. Through my little sisters eyes, I was the big sister who always greeted her with a big hug and kiss, both of which she tried to run from, but loved just as much. In her eyes, I was the person who would always dance with her, even if there wasn't a song playing. In her eyes, I was the person who would color with her for hours on end. In her eyes, I was not a flawed person who didn't make the time, I was simply just her big sister who was away at school. Looking back I can see all this now, especially now that she is cancer free and is about to turn 12! It always amazes me how quickly time passes. I now try to make a bigger effort to spend quality time with my family and be present when I'm there. I make sure to put away my phone when I visit in an effort to ensure I make the most of the time. These family visits and time with friends always seems to fly by with the simple act of putting away my phone and being present.
Remember, time is what is finite, but our impact can be infinite. We can make an impact that can spur something amazing, whether that is through a smile, a kind word, or a suggestion. The smallest action, is typically what has the biggest impact. Do not discount yourself or what you are doing simply because you think it is not enough. You are worthwhile and your impact is felt, even through silent action. Try and reach out to someone this week. Try and connect with someone, even if that is just smiling at everyone you see. Remember you may be the only positive interaction someone has all day. Try to be a force of positivity.
I hope you had a wonderful weekend and Monday morning!