A long day
After a long day at work all I wanted to do was come home, eat a brownie, and sleep. However, I ate my last brownie yesterday and I need to devote an hour or two to studying before I can go to sleep. So begins my personal pity party, that is until I actually start breaking down my day. At a quick glance, I can easily say today was a long boring day. The amazing thing is when I take a moment to really think about everything that happened, it was actually a rather amazing and eventful day, even though I feel exhausted.
Today started off with my dog taking longer than normal to do his business (I always take him out right before I leave and today was no exception). No matter how long I walked him around, he just was having no part of the ‘normal’ morning routine. His delay caused me to be about 10 minutes late to a carpool that I had set-up (good thing I had some extra buffer time for the drive). Even though I was late, I still had an hour long drive to then go sit through a whole day of training for work with built-in team-building and networking. I don’t know about you, but networking really just drains me as an introvert. Focusing on having good questions to keep the conversation flowing, trying not to turn red if I get embarrassed, and trying to remember the details (or names) I'm learning. Then I still had an hour and a half drive home (thanks rush hour traffic!) and it was already dark by the time I got home at 6pm.
After taking a few minutes to just decompress a little bit, hug my husband, pet my cat, and love on my dog, I realized that my day only seemed so long and ‘blah’ because I let it feel that way. When I stop and look back I realized that I let a few great moments go unappreciated by me in my rash assessment of the day. I realized that my dog taking a little longer than normal allowed me a few moments to just gaze up at the absolutely stunning sunrise. Being a little late was actually okay because my carpool friend was also running behind and it gave me a moment to read a few pages of my book. The goal of the training today was to learn better ways to communicate more efficiently, but it helped me realize that I may need to be more aware of my facial expressions as I tend to display EXACTLY how I’m feeling. I got to meet some rather amazing people and welcome them as new employees. Despite the fact that there were traffic slowdowns, I got to get to know my carpool friend a little better and laughed the entire drive home. So maybe my day wasn’t as awful as I initially thought it was. The best part of the day was coming home and seeing my dog by the door and hearing the ‘thump, thump, thump’ of his tail because he knew he was about to get a kiss on the head and a belly rub.
It is so easy to get wrapped up in negativity and allow a nasty cycle to continue. I’m finding that it gets easier, with lots and lots of practice, to take a step back and flip the situation and find the good. When I get wrapped up in the bad and just focus on that aspect of a situation or day, I put myself and others in a bad mood because that is all I’m putting out into the world. I’ve found that making the conscious effort to fight for happiness has been the most rewarding. This has helped me through some nasty times and allowed me to love who I am a little more.
Start small, look at your day. How was your day? Really think about your day from start to finish. Did you interact with anyone? How did those interactions go? What was your impact in the interaction? If it was a positive impact, then take a moment to be happy. Realize, that that one interaction may have been the only positive moment that individual experienced all day. If that wasn’t your positive moment, then that’s okay too. If you didn’t have any positive interactions with others, did you have one by yourself? Did you take a moment to give yourself a compliment? Try it, tomorrow start your day by looking in the mirror and just tell yourself "I am awesome and I matter". You may think that sounds silly and you may laugh while you're doing it, but you have the power to start your day with a positive start. What do you have to lose by giving it a shot?